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I have a friend who recently started an uncomfortable conversation with me.
He has been married for two years and I asked him how things were going. He and his wife live in Florida and don’t have kids yet and lead a great life. They travel and are quite adventurous.
Whether your husband or boyfriend will admit it or not, men not only talk about sexual experiences (ladies do too), but they also like to recall them and remember experiences with all of their conquests. Call them fish stories if you want.
Anyway, my friend told me how utterly in love he was with his wife but asked me an uncomfortable question. He asked: “Is your best sexual experience you’ve ever had with your wife?”
I paused. I then started to ask him a question until he interrupted me.
“Scott, what was your best sexual experience?”
He then proceeded to tell me about his. It was when he was in college and it was with a girl he only dated for a brief time. He didn’t give me crass details but he did get very detailed on why he thought it was his best experience. It was oral and it was on a coach and it was with this girl named Cari.
Like serial killers who keep remnants of their victims, us piggish males do the same with sexual conquests. It’s a weird thing but it is true.
I then asked that same question to a few of my friends that had been married longer and how are older or younger. Each one of them was able to instantly recall that “one of a kind” experience. Some recalled it as being with their wife, and some didn’t.
It’s fascinating that us men do this. But these experiences are our trophies. They’re trophies not unlike those we won playing sports back when we could perform at a high level. We take them down, blow off the dust and remember how they happened.
Follow Scott on Twitter @prgully or email him at scott@everyotherthursday.com. His personal blog, where he writes about public relations and social media, is www.scottgulbransen.com. His next speaking engagement is at the Business Development Institute’s Social Integration Conference, January 13, 2010 in New York.
As the Director of Social Media at tax giant H&R Block, Scott Gulbransen recently returned to the tax business after previously spending 1o years at rival Intuit working on the TurboTax & Quicken brands. He brings 16 years as a marketing communications professional, and 11 tax seasons, with him to H&R Block and was responsible for the launch of many key social initiatives at Intuit before leaving in 2010. A strategic thinker and business problem solver, Gulbransen has worked for some of the world’s top brands including TurboTax, Sony Online Entertainment, and Applebee’s.
In 2010, Gulbransen became the first Director of Social Media & Digital Content for Applebee’s, creating the first-ever social media strategy for the world’s largest casual dining chain. While at Applebee’s, Gulbransen lead a small but nimble team responsible for creating a robust and far-reaching social engagement channel for Applebee’s and its franchise community.
In addition to his professional accomplishments at the corporate level, Gulbransen is also a prolific blogger recently named as one of the Top 50 Daddy Bloggers in the US by Cision. Gulbransen was ranked #21.
As a member of the TurboTax communications and social media team for 10 years, Scott helped the TurboTax team launch and sustain the brand’s social media platform. He also drove and was responsible for the launch of TurboTax’s successful content strategy, including the launch of the TurboTax Blog. Recently, he launched one of the most significant social media campaigns in the brand’s history with the @TeamTurboTax Twitter project.
Gulbransen was instrumental in reinvigorating the Quicken brand almost entirely through the use of social media and, particularly, Twitter. By engaging with customers and influencers who talk about personal finance on Twitter, he and his team helped Quicken Online grow from just 200,000 users in October 2008 to over 1.4 Million in just 10 months. This led to a more focused look at the personal finance space for Intuit and, ultimately, the acquisition of Mint.com.
A former print journalist, who, after realizing his paychecks from the newspaper industry weren’t going to get much bigger, turned to the Dark Side – public relations. After working in both college athletics and inside mid-size agencies, he joined Intuit in 2000 and Applebee’s in 2010. He is a graduate of the University of Nevada, Las Vegas (UNLV) and is the married father of five kids.
Despite his busy personal and professional life, Scott is a digital native who never strays far from social networking. To hassle Scott, or to tell him how great you think he is (or not!), email him at scott@scottgulbransen.com, add him to your Circles on Google+, or ping him on Twitter at @sdgully. Scott also is an editor and writer for Technorati.com.
